Family Relationships

Now that I am seperated, my ex's family is trying to contact me via email and other avenues to inquire about the children. In my head I'm thinking, what do you want? but in my heart, I know that my kids deserve to be apart of both sides of their family even though our relationship did not work out. It's very difficult to go over their houses to spend time with them in this murky situation. I'd rather not deal with it at all, but I know time is marching by and the kids are losing moments with their other grandparents and cousins. It's strange because some people in his family have really treated me bad and others have not. I wonder should I visit the ones who are staying neutral until this situation is all resolved? The kids don't notice a difference since they didn't really visit them anyway. Since my son was diagnosed with autism, they didn't really watch him or spend time with him. I always stayed with him in case he would get to hyper or to calm him down. It's been difficult, but I've tried to stay in contact with them and away from them at the same time. Any thoughts?

Relationships

I find that I have a many personalities when it comes to men. My personality is very guarded. I don't like to give so much of myself away at first. You usually gain what little you have to get from me over time and then the rest comes naturally. After about, oh I say, 10 years of dating, I am not seeing anything from my inverting personality. Lately I have encompassed one of my other personalities (Monica) when I want to show affection and care to a man. Monica is very affectionate. She does whatever and whenever for her man. She makes up love coupons and dresses for Valentines day and wants flowers and candy and all the opposite things that I don't want. So, I have to pull Monica out when I need to show care and concern for my man.
Then, when I get pissed, my hard personality is called Niya. Niya don't play that. Niya don't take no crap. When I'm done, I'm done. That personality is just in case you mess up. That way you don't have to deal with my really hurt self. My last, but not least personality is called Sherea. Sherea will deal with everything you throw at her. She always sees the silver lining in every situation. She can be tough but very patient. She can also accept any foul habits you have and learn to look the other way. All in all, you get a pretty complete person out of me and I try to balance all the crazyness at one time. Time only will tell when you get to see all sides of me. Do you girls do this too?